Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Stress...

on coaching my boys homework. Now, they still got their homework twice a week, most is on Monday and Thurs night.

I notice lately Fearles hardly finish his homework, sometime he will finish his numbering and leave the english/alphabets one for me to sit with him only he will do. Last night, another "homework night", i check through their homework, Cruz finished but some of the words not tidy or not correct i will erase and ask him to re-write again. As for Fearles, his homework leave it un-touch! When i tell them it's homework time, ask them to bring the file out and sit on the table wait for me, Fearles give me a "torturing moment" kind of look. :(

While Fearles doing his alphabets/sentence writting, i will do revision on the numbers and ask him to read the sentences given by the teacher, make sure he remember/recognise the words. After finish with Cruz, i will put more "effort" on Fearles. He can write well and neat, but.....when come to numbers, he can memorize and read it out but when i show him the number or when i read the number to him, he show me a "blank look", i always raise my voice and no patience with that.

Now they are learning, ascending numbers, descending numbers, missing numbers, before or after the numbers. Just fill in the blank, i will read to them and ask them what is the number and ask them to fill in. Fearles was ok last two weeks, this weeks he tend to forget and don't understand again. Like 12, _, 14, 15, he can tell me thirteen but he wrote 3 instead of 13. I explain to him 13 is with 1 in front, which 3 is only 3. When i said 15, 16, or 14 i will re-emphasis, it's 1 & 5 or 1 & 6 or 1 & 4. After few times explain, he still don't get me and i lost my temper, and use really fierce tone (like a tiger) and asked him again. He cannot answer me, but look at me again with blank and with tears rolling down on the cheeks.

Haih!! Seeing this, i feel bad, but on the other hand i really want him to learn and understand. I wish i can have more patience, and won't easily raise my voice. Maybe i "push" him too hard, till he got afraid of me and cannot think of anything. I told him, i will do the homework with him everyday and also revision. I find Fearles can recognise the words pretty well, but he speak very soft and some he cannot prounounce it in proper. Like 15 sometime he cannot pronounce "f" just like my maid!! Now i wonder is he start picking some words from the maid! Instead of saying "five" he will go "pive" :( I have to correct him and make him read until he got it correct. Good that is my "princess" leaving soon, another 11 days?

15 comments:

Health Freak Mommy said...

I'm also like a tiger when I coach my gals haha!

2ma said...

fearles cannot pronounce "f", shan leo cannot pronounce "r" *haha* so, when he pronounce round, its like "lound"!!

u r not the only one that raise voice when teaching your kids. my sis also like that!!! scold & scream during homework time!! luckily, on certain days only...coz on some days, shan leo can do his work very well, but on some days, he just dunno what he is doing???

Wena said...

Hmm...just a question : have you check if Fearles is dyslexic? That he may difficulty learning about numbers or maybe that he can't quite read them?

Or maybe he needs a different approach to learning? Stickers used to work for me and my sister and still works for my nieces and nephews. :)

coffeesncookies said...

hello, cool down ler.. if he's so afraid, he won't absorb learning. give him time, I'm sure he'll get it. Also, they do pick up speaking habits frm maids. Bad English I can correct but bad pronounciation is very difficult to change. My girl reads sugar as 'soogar' instead of 'shugar'. No prize for guessing where she picks it from.

slavemom said...

I oso lose my temper easily when my girl dun get it which I know she u/stds. But u're right, I think sometimes they're so afraid of us that they can't think properly.

mommy to chumsy said...

*breathe in breathe out* i know how stressful it is cos i hardly have patience too. take it easy :)

Irene said...

*stress* *stress*

LW said...

YEs, can understand your stress... I sometimes, ahhh most of the times lost patient when teaching Megan colors and until now, she hasn't grasp the concept of colors :(

michelle said...

Wow too early to stress yourself. Relax. Wait till they come to std 1. Imagine 12 more years of stress, sure you want that?

jacss said...

annie annie, i can sensed yr stress already!! as i'm also a short temper person, i can imagine how easily we tend to raise our voice. while it's always easier said than done to avoid some weakness, the truth is kids really would turn away when they feel the tense too :(
being parents can really drive us nut, heh?
good luck to you!!

laundryamah said...

wah so fast wanna stress?? reached std 1 baru tahu!

BoeyJoey said...

Kids absorbs fastest when they are having fun... try making their homework session fun? I know... easier said than done :-)

janice said...

dun stress urself too much ler.. take it easy... ur boyz are smart ler..

Lovely Mummy said...

next year i will be more stress like you when guide my boy for homework.. :(

IMMomsDaughter said...

You are not alone....*humming MJ's song*....ok, I confess, I have little patience too. Lucky, I only guide my kids on English and BM and the Big Kid does the Chinese ones. But believe me, I'll rather pay for tuition. LOL.