Tuesday, August 10, 2010

It's not my fault

Some of you may have read this on my FB, but here i just want to noted it down again for sharing.



Last night, me and my boys doing some reading on Peter and Jane book, when done with the reading, i let them see TV and i want to go for my shower. Cruz always the one that like to talk a lot, he will tell me what the new words he learn from school. Sometime he will tell me some chinese word or ask me what is the meaning. When he is talking, he said "tolong" i said do you know what it's means? He nodded said "help" , then i said Good! Then suddenly he utter "F*** you"! I got a shock, i stop what i am doing and look at him again, i ask what did he said, he said "tolong F*** you", at first i find it a bit funny, and i just want to confirm is he really mean "f*** you" or he is related to some other words. He show me innocent face and repeat again "f*** you". I ask where did he learn this word from? This is a bad word, cannot said. All the question marks start appear in my mind. Did he learn this word from his friends? Cousins? We adults? TV? Then i asked again, he told me "teacher teach one", i laugh, i said "are you sure teacher teach you this word?"



Hub being not a patience guy, this word blow his top, he look at Cruz stern and scolded him with harsh tone. Question him where he learn this word from? From the teacher? Which teacher? I have to cool hub down and tell him, teacher won't teach this word, it might be some new words, and you know sometime kids can't pick up the pronunciation correctly? My little boy must be in the trauma while daddy scold him and he sobbed. I comfort him, it's ok, i will double confirm with teacher again tomorrow morning, see what is the actual word. He is ok after that.



This morning, after he woke up, i make him milk, i so wanted to ask him again about that word, but i don't him to feel "sad" again, i keep it to myself. After he finish his milk, he told me, "mummy, later remember to ask teacher what is the word", he is so afraid, he want to prove he is innocent, that word is a correct word and taught by the teacher. Since he is telling me, so i ask him again (remember i am a mother which never give up on "grilling" till i get the answer?" What is the word teacher teach? Bahasa or English? I have think one whole night, either English or Bahasa, non of the word or sound that can relate to "F*** you". Cruz said, teacher teach sukukata, that is the word "f*** you" from. Hmmmmmm...ok, at least now i got some clue, it's sukukata.



When reach school, i saw their class teacher, so i just ask her, is she teaching them sukukata lately? She said "yes" and "why"? I said, last night Cruz said some "vulgar" word but he told me is teacher teach one. Teacher very surprise, when i told her the word, she said she never teach that word! I said "oh", then she start give some example what word she teach, till come the word "f*** you"! I said, THIS IS THE WORD!!! Teacher look at me and said " Oh, you mean FAKIR?" F A K I R? Yes, that is Bahasa means "poor" in english. Poor people? Now i know why Cruz said "tolong fakir" - helping the poors!!!!


Oh no, this is a new word to me too!!! While i am talking to the teacher, Cruz is standing behind the door and look at us, after i got the answer, he peep at me again and said "bye bye mummy", i told him "ok, mummy got the answer, you're correct, you did not said any bad word." He show me a happy face again.


Another lesson to learn, now talk to kids, use the way like how we talk to a friend, at least they will feel more comfortable, instead of screaming, shouting , scolding and showing them the cane, now it don't work anymore. Kids are innocent, they pick up the word, they also don't know that is the bad word or can said or cannot said, it is our duty to tell and explain to them what can said and what cannot said.



Sorry Cruz, for blaming you, your innocent. Yes, daddy still owe you a "sorry". :)

19 comments:

mNhL said...

LOL ! Good mummy. Luckily you check with his teacher and let Cruz to have the answer. hahah... FAKIR. a new word to me too. I thought 'poor' = miskin?

eugene said...

I respect your tenacity in finding the truth ,,good very very good, sometimes a lot of us whould have tembak the anak straight,,,,,

i must learn this from you,, thank you thank you....

Inspired Momx1 said...

Haha... fakir.. what a word. I didn't know the meaning till now. *paiseh* Why must they use such bombastic word when they can use the word miskin? I learn new BM words while coaching my son too.

Well done, mommy.. Yes, usually the mommies are more patient than daddies.")

smallkucing said...

Hahahaha...bahasa really makes our head spins. Bahasa Malaysia comes up with many "new" words every year.

Anyway, just to share. The other day my my said "dont like you" to me. I was puzzled from where he learn this word.

Then found out wen watching "Higgly Town Heroes". Part of the song was "a hero, just like you". He was saying "just Like You". Pronounced wrong only :P

reanaclaire said...

aiyoh..got such word meh? fakir?? fikir got la.. hahaha.. gosh..so deep word one.. nasib baik your hubby didnt give a tight slap straightaway..

LittleLamb said...

definitely not his fault. Also lucky he didnt use this words on other people yet.

Lovely Mummy said...

You are very patience..i should learn from you. Iam so bad temper, know shout n scold, but not cane yet to my kid... :) sometimes kids pronounciation may make us heard to other words. :)

cleffairy said...

There's a peribahasa for this, Annie. "Jangan serkap jarang."

cleffairy said...

@ Claire... got... got such word. Fakir miskin. Means people who are very poor.

suituapui said...

I've commented on Facebook. Oh, Cleff? That refers to people like me, right? Muahahahahaha!!!!

Cynthia said...

aiks!!! i freaked out too when my 6 yr old said the F word! Pardon??!?! He didn't know what it meant, but a lot of his friends were saying it..so he thought it was cool. So I patiently reminded him that its not a nice word and other people who respect him (ie his teachers, parents etc) would find it shocking to have a word like this come out of his mouth. Anyways, thank you..I too learnt a new malay word. Considering i left the country ages and ages ago, I can now show off my new bahasa word!!!!! yay!

Beii said...

kesian cruz!but what to do,ur hub just kan cheong..haha!lucky you went and find out the real word! I didn't know fakir means poor ppl also!thanks Cruz for teaching aunty! XD

Mamapumpkin said...

TOLONG FAKIR! TOLONG FAKIRRRR!!!! LOL

coffeesncookies said...

LOL !!!! i can't stop laughing at Patsy's !!!!
well now, with this experience, I'm sure your boyz will definitely learn the f""" word, unintentionally tho' !

Christina said...

hahaha... I never see the word "Fakir" before too...
You are a good mother. :)

Mommy Ling said...

Retired from Bahasa for so long edy...that's really a new word to me also...Salute you...never give up finding the answer.

IMMomsDaughter said...

Phew! I was trying so hard to figure out what is the word that is being taught by the teacher.

jacss said...

awwwww.... poor cruz, such innocent cutie, i can imagine his freak out look over yr hub's reaction. faster get dady to sayang him back lor :)

javapot said...

wait till teach 'faktor' in bm maths!

glad u sorted it out though.